How does your child see you and your life. Can you look back over the past year or so and say you have been doing everything you can to make sure that they are raised right? Will they be kind to others, listen to correction, not act up in public, or bully other kids?
A better question to ask is; can you look back over the past year of so and say that YOU have been living and acting exactly how you want them to act?
There is a song that I love that starts out with a popular christian childs song: Be careful little feet where you go, be careful little feet where you go, for the father up above is looking down with love oh be careful little feet where you go.
Then they sing; Be careful little eyes what you see
It’s the second glance that ties your hands as darkness pulls the strings
Be careful little feet where you go
For it’s the little feet behind you that are sure to follow
Ive never heard a truer tale. I cant even fit all of the times my mother or other parents have done things that she or they would never in a million years think that I would do simply because they did it, even unknowingly in front of children. Your every word, your every move makes a huge impact on those little eyes, ears, and mouths… They look up to adults as if we were kings and queens. They look at us as if we could do no wrong for a long time in the beginning of their years. If they see it from us, be rest assured that they will do it themselves.
Here are a couple of scenarios: (1) a child watches his father yell at his mom day after day for the first several years of his life. He may even see him hit her. There is alcohol and drugs around, the music swears, the dad and mom swear. The little one grows up and goes to school. One day the parents get a call from the teacher that the child is yelling, swearing, and hitting his classmates and is out of control. “where did he learn that from?!” the parents will wonder.
The second scenario: (2) A child grows up watching his parents praying with him, singing worship songs on a daily basis, reading bible stories, going to church, and watching his parents show love and kindness to strangers, and even enemies. The parents look to God in every situation. What happens? no phone call from school, unless somehow in some way, he was the victim of that bully.
I will add one additional scenario, that could be possible if there were enough children from the second scenario in today’s world: The child raised in a godly household is still kind and loving to the child that bullied him. He still just wants to be his friend. Eventually, and yes it may cause some heart ache in the christian child, but it will be well worth it in the future. Why? Because that child planted a seed of kindness in a child’s heart that knows nothing of kindness.
What child do you want yours to be?
Yes I am aware that not every scenario is just like this, but I have a bit of experience under my belt on this one from my own childhood. Though my parents weren’t the best examples, my grandparents were. They taught me love and kindness and how Jesus even loved those who persecuted him. I was bullied so bad in school that I had to switch schools 3 times. I was afraid to go to recess most of my childhood. I was still always the girl to give my bullies a pencil when the teacher called them out for not having one, giving half my sandwich to the bully that had nothing.
Here is where the patience, and the waiting comes in. Through the awesome networking of Facebook, later on in my years, I began getting friend requests from said bullies. Some of them ended up saved. Saved by grace, repentant for the things they had done, and kind and loving from then on. Some of them were living lives that destroyed them. The total end result? they were still thinking about me. Not because I’m special or anything, but because of the kindness I showed them even when I was being kicked in the dirt every day by those same people.
Your child will be who you allow them to be, through influence, association, and prayer. Don’t let your children down. God would never do that to you if you looked up to him the way they do at you.
Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.
Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.
Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die.
You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.
Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.
Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.
Discipline your son, and he will give you rest; he will give delight to your heart.
- Bullying (prisailurophileblog.wordpress.com)
- Speaking out (raisingyoungbelievers.wordpress.com)
- What God Says About Discipling Our Love Ones (meanlittleboy2.wordpress.com)